Ideas to Process Grief and Loss

  • Collage – one side is what you’ve lost, the other side is what you’ve gained through that loss

 

  • Make a list of gains and losses (if a collage is not your style) – one column of loss, one column of gain

 

  • Memory box – photos, letters/emails, momentos of the loss

 

  • Write a letter to yourself, God, and/or others expressing your feelings about the loss. Either burn it, save it for future time, or send it up in balloon.

 

  • Watch DVDs of people experiencing loss and/or death.

Some examples:

Shadowlands

My Life

Bucket List

The Notebook

Trip to Bountiful

Bridget to Terabithia

Tuesdays with Morrie

Ordinary People

StepMom

Terms of Endearment

Rabbit Hole

Steel Magnolias

Beaches

  • Make a list of people to have closure with before leaving – say goodbye well.

 

  • Get a piece of “remembrance” jewelry.

 

  • Journal

 

  • Plant a tree or bush in honor of the lost person or place.

 

  • Memorial service for losses (not just for death)

 

  • Take a trip in honor of the deceased

 

  • Read books like:

A Grief Observed by: C.S. Lewis

A Grace Disguised by: Jerry L. Sittser

Tear Soup by: Pat Schwiebert and Chuck De Klyen

 

Encouraging quotations to process grief/loss:

“There is a good reason for entering fully into one’s sorrow.  Once you have experienced the seriousness of your loss, you will be able to experience the wonder of being alive.”  – Robert Veninga

 

“If you are unwilling to face the pain of the loss, it ultimately diminishes the capacity of your soul to grow bigger in response to pain.”  – Gerald Sittser

 

“We are not given explanations, but to hearts open to receive it, a more precious revelation of the heart of our living God.”  – Elisabeth Elliott

 

“The risk of further loss, therefore, poses a dilemma.  The problem of choosing to love again is that the choice to love means living under the constant threat of further loss.  But the problem of choosing not to love is that the choice to turn from love means imperiling the life of the soul, for the soul thrives in an environment of love.  Soul-full people love, soul-less people do not.  If people want their souls to grow through loss, whatever the loss is, they must eventually decide to love even more deeply than they did before.  They must respond to the loss by embracing love with renewed energy and commitment.”  – Gerald Sittser, “A Grace Disguised”

 

You can listen to Elisabeth’s talk on this topic HERE.

 

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